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Wednesday, June 1, 2005 Email Luke Essays Profiles ArchivesSearch LF.netLuke Ford Profile Dennis Prager May 18 Jewish Journal Likes My Blog AriM at JewishJournal.com writes Luke Ford Seeks A Wife:
These words of praise are so singular and sincere, how can my heart not be moved? I'll do anything for my favorite newspaper. Go Danicka Patrick! I haven't watched car racing in 25 years but when I saw on the net that Danica was leading, I watched the last 17 laps, rooting for her (because she wasn't seeking different standards, she just wanted a fair go). She finished fourth. One thing I love about sports is that you don't have affirmative action and different standards for different people. Expanding the Palace of Torah: Orthodoxy and Feminism Without her Orthodox pose, Dr. Tamar Ross would be just another dreary feminist theorist. Like homosexual Orthodox rabbi Steven Greenberg (author of Wrestling with God and Men: Homosexuality in the Jewish Tradition), she is engaged in dishonest work. In Greenberg's case, he argues that it is ok to have sex with men and still be an Orthodox Jew. in Dr. Ross's case, she argues that it is ok to accept feminism as the ultimate truth, and to make Orthodox Judaism to conform to it. (If your primary source of values is Orthodox Judaism, then you can't be a feminist. If your primary source of values if feminism, then you can't be an Orthodox Jew.) Without their false public image, Greenberg and Ross would disappear from our intellecutal dialogue. On the merit of their work, they wouldn't warrant consideration from those who struggle with the great issues of life. But because they insist on presenting themselves as Orthodox Jews living and writing from within the tradition, they attract attention from the shallow media who already endorse feminism and homosexuality and now want to give it the patina of religious acceptance (the deep and largely unconscious agenda here is the substitution of secular liberal values for religious and conservative ones). An Orthodox rabbi who lives in a homosexual relationship with another man and claims that homosexual sex is ok is momentarily compelling. A feminist writing a feminist critique of Orthodox Judaism from within Orthodox Judaism is momentarily compelling. Dr. Ross and Rabbi Greenberg live in incompatible worlds. If they admitted this, then they would be on the road to intellectual honesty, and they would be worthy of our sympathy, if not our respect. (Even though in some ways (such as learning) I've participated more actively in Orthodox Jewish life over the past decade than the average Orthodox Jew, I've never presented myself (except ironically) to the world as an Orthodox Jew writing from within the tradition of Orthodox Judaism. It wouldn't be honest given my choices. If I were Tamar Ross or Steven Greenberg, I would abandon their public pose of Orthodoxy.) If Steven Greenberg stopped billing himself as an Orthodox rabbi, and stopped claiming that Orthodox Judaism can sanction homosexual behavior, then he'd be honest to both God and the life he's chosen. (While people may be born to be homosexual in their orientation, it is still their choice to act on this desire, just as it is the choice of every married heterosexual to be adulterous.) He'd also be forgotten. Feminism, like psychology and philosophy, is a secular way of looking at the world (even though it can be adopted by the religious). A feminist critique of Orthodox Judaism is predictable. How could it not clash with a 3,000-year-old tradition that gives separate roles to men and women? What will propel intrepid readers through all 249 dense pages of Dr. Ross's latest book (and I predict that only one out of 20 people who try to read the thing will finish, because even though I am rapid reader, I am only getting through about 20-pages-per-hour) is to see what intellectual acrobatics she will perform to do the impossible -- reconcile Orthodoxy with feminism. Incidentally, if you want to know how I spent my 39th birthday on May 28 it was reading Dr. Ross's jargon-ridden book. A Bible-believing Christian has more in common with Orthodox Judaism than does an agnostic and poser such as Tamar Ross. Here's an example from page 135: "It is a real question whether religious belief in general and Judaism in particular can afford the forgoing of any claims to metaphysics." For Dr. Ross, it is a real question whether Judaism can give up belief in God. One can only wish that given such radical views, she will give up her pose of Orthdox Judaism. Dr. Ross spends pages sympathetically evaluating feminists who've found that they must give up monotheism for its inherent sexism. Miriam Shaviv calls the book "brilliant" in her Forward review: "Tamar Ross...analyzes why feminism poses such a great challenge to the Orthodox establishment and why there has been no systematic resolution." Feminism poses as much of a challenge to Orthodoxy as Jesus Christ. If you believe Jesus of Nazareth was the Christ, the Messiah, and the divine son-of-God, you can not be an Orthodox Jew. Likewise, if you believe that feminism possesses ultimate truth, you can not be an Orthodox Jew. Miriam writes:
These points (by Shaviv and Ross) are ludicrous in so many ways. If Judaism's sacred texts are as biased as Ross alleges, then they can't be divine and there is nothing to undermine. Judaism is a crock. It's not that "feminism can be seen as undermining the deepest foundations [of Judaism]." It has nothing to do with "can be seen." If the Torah is as Ross presents it, then it is not divine and worthy of no more attention than Plato and Aristotle. It is certainly not worth living one's life around, as Dr. Ross claims to do (on the back cover of her book). Shaviv claims Dr. Ross is unwilling to rock the boat of the Orthodox establishment. This is pure nonsense. How much more rocking would you have to do beyond being agnostic about the importance of God to Judaism and claiming that Judaism's sacred texts and those who've interpreted them for millenia are male chauvinists. Shaviv claims that "so many Orthodox men fear female scholarship." I live my life around Orthodox men, many of whom are rabbis, and I don't know any who fear female scholarship. I'm well read in contemporary Jewish literature and I don't know of any publishing by Orthodox men that displays fear of female scholarship. If Shaviv's review and Ross's book are examples of female scholarship, there's no certainly nothing to fear. Both are shoddy. Underneath all Dr. Ross's academic jargon is a simple cry from the heart: "Pay attention to me. I hurt." There's nothing wrong with such sentiments if one is honest about them. I like attention and I hurt. Everybody likes positive attention. Everybody hurts. Somehow Dr. Ross and her feminist cohorts believe that life is uniquely painful for them. Dr. Ross approvingly quotes Orthodox feminist Debby Koren:
Arguing for changes in Judaism because "this hurts" is something that only a woman could get away with. Imagine if a man called for changes in Jewish law, such as the requirement that he pray three times a day, on the basis of "this hurts." Let me assure you that getting up early every morning to go to shul to say the same words you've been saying for 40-years -- "this hurts." Only men don't write books complaining about such things. Men don't expect the community to change for them if they have hurt feelings. Men don't expect that their feelings are a sufficient basis for changing Jewish law and liturgy. Dr. Ross went to the 2nd Christina Conference and gave a paper entitled "Can Traditional Jewish Theology Sustain the Feminist Critique?" I love how Dr. Ross the agnostic is giving papers to Christian (or goyish) audiences presenting herself as an Orthodox Jew and the one to reconcile traditional Jewish theology with the feminist critique? It's like having Hugh Hefner giving a paper on "Can the Traditional Monogamous Marriage Sustain The Playboy Critique?" I suspect that for many at that March 3-5, 2005 conference, Dr. Ross was the only Orthodox Jew they had ever met. Here's the abstract of her paper:
This is drivel. Feminism can not shake the faith of an Orthodox Jew. The faith of an Orthodox Jew depends on his belief that God gave the Torah. Feminism has nothing to say about whether or not God gave the Torah. B-List Bloggers: Emmanuelle Richard, Cathy Seipp, Luke Where are the bloggers of color on this left? Why are there so many Jews? "The C list is full of goyishe names," notes Amalek. The Art Of The Celebrity Profile Richard Rushfeld, editorial director of LATimes.com and one of the brains behind the magazine LA Innuendo, produced a hilarious series of readings of celebrity profiles Wednesday night at the Comedy Central Stage at the Hudson Theater at 6538 Santa Monica Blvd. Richard gave the best performance, particularly the first one where he was dressed in a robe and had Pacabell's Canon playing. Other performers included Stacy Grenrock Woods, Richard Rushfield, Lauren Weedman, Mark Ebner, Mark 'Defamer' Lisanti, Laura Krafft, Kevin Seccia and several more. Mark Ebner was the most outrageous. He made a lot of sexually graphic asides to the audience while reading his old interview with Alyssa Milano. Lisanti showed he's a better blogger than performer. The audience included Peter Gilstrap, Emmanuelle Richard, Mickey Kaus, Bill Mahr, Michael Sonnenschein, Robertson Barrett (head of LATimes.com) and a lot of hot women who I didn't talk to because I felt like a loser. Still, I took comfort Thursday in this faux profile by Emmanuelle:
Dennis Prager was interviewing an author and political scientist (Professor J. Budziszewski) who returned to Protestant Christianity before converting to Roman Catholicism. Dennis: "You should write an autobiography." Professor: "I've been asked to write a little bit about my story. It might be good for others to read but it wouldn't be good for me to write." Dennis: "I'm Jewish. I don't have that problem." Larry Yudelson writes:
Jane's Response To Yori Yanover Jane is a former lover of rabbi J. Hershy Worch. She responds to Yori's posting on USAJewish.com:
Steve Sailer writes it is the key to GOP electoral success. Why Are You Guys So Moralistic? "The demand in today's culture to judge every sexual behavior as good or bad, instead of just trying to study them and understand them? Once you start talking about good and bad, who's going to tell you about their bad behaviors?" That's a quote from my interview today with the head of the Kinsey Institute, Dr. Julia R. Heiman. I just finished talking to Dr. Julia R. Heiman, the sixth sixth director of The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University, Bloomington. This interview will appear on Ben Sullivan's ScienceBlog. Due to difficult times in internet commerce, Ben will not be rewarding me for my labors with tawdry money but rather with a gift of the spirit -- one of his ex-girlfriends. I have a particular one in mind. A few months ago, when I connected my jumper cables to her battery, I felt a real spark. Dr. Heiman and I discussed Garrison Keillor's Lake Wobegon stories and we decided that I should ask Mr. Keillor a question. Does anyone have an email address for Garrison? 'When I First Got My Get...' Chutzpah writes on Jewlicious: "When I first got my Get [divorce] after 11 years of living as a “Frum” mother and raising “Orthodox” children, I met a man on Frumster for a date…long story short…he is also on Nerve. com looking for couples sex. So I find all these labels very humorous and I think the Frumster people take their job of cubbyholing people way WAY too seriously. What would they label a guy who lives in Teaneck and keeps Kosher and Shabbos but wants you to --- in his mouth during ---- sex? I went out with him too and it really bothered me because he wouldn’t let me order the non-kosher wine at the non-kosher restaurant we went to (he had plain salad). I guess --- is kosher if comes from someone he keeps kosher? Don’t know. Sorry to be so graphic, but this hasn’t been easy on me." I Will Not Have Sex Until I Am Married True love waits. You can tempt me all you want, but I am just saying no. On my wedding night, things are going to be special in a way the jaded among you will never understand. Chaim Amalek writes: "You already did that, several times, remember? The "shomer negila" shtick, for example." Khunrum writes: "Interns supposedly learn the biz and move on to bigger and better things." Helpful writes: "That's true. Look at Monica Lewinski. Published author. Failed Jenny Craig spokesperson. Handbag designer. The sky's the limit for a dedicated fellatrix." Chaim writes: "Sorry, but this bit does not even qualify as irony. You need to think of new shticks for getting women. I suggest you start by getting a job." 'Dear' Equals 'Expensive' When an item was too expensive in Australia, we called it 'dear.' I haven't heard that use in America until today when I was listening to John Steinbeck's Grapes of Wrath book. A character, referring to a car, called it 'too dear,' as in expensive. Cosmopolitan18 writes: "My ephiphany about Dear happened in Germany. Someone was talking about a restaurant and saying it was Toyer. I know that word from Yiddish, Mein Tayer Kinder means my dear child, so although I don’t know German, I understood that the restaurant was expensive. But then my German speaking mate told me that Toyer in German ONLY means expensive, it doesn’t mean dear in the sense of treasured, as it does in almost every other language – Chere, Caro, Yakar (hebrew), Tayer (Yiddish). I considered that very telling, a sign of German coldness – at least in my paranoid mind." New Star Wars Chaim Amalek writes:
Hating Women: America's Hostile Campaign Against the Fairer Sex From Publishers Weekly:
Premarital Therapy On his second hour, Dennis Prager asked a question: If you heard about a couple who were dating and going to therapy to resolve problems (not premarital counseling which prepares a couple for marriage), would you take this as a good sign or a bad sign? Most of his audience said it would be a good sign. I once was in a relationship with a woman who said that if her shrink didn't approve of me, I was a goner. I was fine with going with her regularly to see him. He eventually prescribed medicine for me (Nardil) which helped me overcome my Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Our relationship crashed anyway after three months of living together. I kept seeing the psychiatrist after that for as long as I lived in Orlando, FL. Gateway To Happiness A car that starts. My van now turns over better than at any time in the past four years. It runs faster than Levi away from onerous Torah restrictions or some ejecting shul. Only cost me $310 (for a new alternator and regulator). Protect your daughters! I'm on the move again. I'm on the up side of my bipolar cycle. IM'd ten people this afternoon, took a nap, chewed gum, and listened to Madonna sing "Like A Prayer." Whoohoo! Pilegesh.Blogspot.Com - Naughty Lakewood Girls Need Love Too According to the Jewish Encyclopedia: "A concubine [Pilegesh] recognized among the ancient Hebrews. She enjoyed the same rights in the house as the legitimate wife. Since it was regarded as the highest blessing to have many children, while the greatest curse was childlessness, legitimate wives themselves gave their maids to their husbands to atone, at least in part, for their own barrenness, as in the cases of Sarah and Hagar, Leah and Zilpah, Rachel and Bilhah. The concubine commanded the same respect and inviolability as the wife; and it was regarded as the deepest dishonor for the man to whom she belonged if hands were laid upon her. Thus Jacob never forgave his eldest son for violating Bilhah (Gen. xxxv. 22, xlix. 4)." According to Pilegesh.Blogspot.Com:
Vicki Polin's 1989 Letter To The ADL About Her Appearance As 'Rachel' On The Oprah Show May 1, 1989 I publish the letter verbatim, typos and all:
Lukeford.net Seeks A Young Enthusiastic Intern While there will be no pay, you should know that your non-material reward will be great, not just in this world, but more importantly, in the world to come. You will learn Jewish journalism at the feet of the master (no, not Gary Rosenblatt) and then transition with his blessing into high-powered journalism jobs. Email Luke. I have opportunities for bestowing college credit and community service hours upon worthy beneficiaries. Together we can stop sexual abuse! I spend hours a day listening to books on tape. I check them out through www.lapl.org. I just listened to Villages. Updike's prose is exquisite but I felt a tad guilty because half of the book describes sexual intercourse. Jaded as I may seem to you, that explicit sex description just doesn't strike me as quite right. I've written a lot about sex but I've rarely felt comfortable describing the act itself in graphic details. I have two parts of my personality. One that wants to shock and one that is repelled by vulgarity. I guess I appall myself. (I prefer Tom Wolfe to John Updike because I find Wolfe's novels redemptive while Updike depresses me.) Just finished a critical appraisal of Pat Conroy and his book The Prince of Tides. During the third meal of Shabbat, I found myself in an unexpectedly bitter and emotional interchange. Friend A asked me why I hadn't brought with me my book on John Monash (the son-in-law of the great Jewish historian Heinrich Graetz). Friend B: "Who's Monash?" Luke: "The best general of WWI, an Australian Jew." Friend B: "I didn't know Australia was in WWI." Luke: "Have you heard of Gallipoli? ANZAC Day?" Friend B: "Nope. You can tell me if you want." Luke: "I don't expect Americans to know history." Observer: "The Americans didn't have anything to do with Gallipoli." Luke: "I know. The British commanded and the Australians died." It was one of those rare moments when I was filled with Australian patriotism and longing. Author Naomi Ragen On Vicki Polin Naomi writes 5/22/05:
A Guide To The Perplexed On Thursday, I read a review in the Forward by Miriam Shaviv about a "brilliant" new book on Orthodoxy and feminism. Friday, I pick up the Jewish Journal's cover story on Reform Jews, which reads: * Shabbat-observing So I wondered if either I was ignorant or if these claims were specious. After reading the article (and the book), I quickly realized that these claims are specious. No more than about 1% of Reform Jews observe the Sabbath as a sacred day (forget considerations about the observance of Jewish law). Few Reform Jews keep kosher. No more than .1 of Reform Jews do Daf Yomi. Only a tiny percentage of Reform Jews speak Hebrew. The Journal article taken from Haaretz focuses on individual movement with Reform Judaism towards tradition while ignoring that the great mass of Jews who affiliate Reform display no interest in increased Jewish observance or literacy. The article bollixes up a famous anecdote:
Replace "ethical monotheism" with "social justice." Julie Fax writes in the Journal:
Contrary to what rabbi Brad Artson claims, yes, women are taking over non-Orthodox Judaism. It's a sociological fact that men don't like to compete with women and that unless a group (religious or secular, see service clubs in the past 20-years) includes special rituals only for men, men will drop out (Dennis Prager). There's an increasing shortage of men in non-Orthodox forms of Judaism. Go to Friday night services at a Reform temple and there will typically be two women (usually over 60) for every man. I'm 43-pages into the new book by Tamar Ross -- Expanding the Palace of Torah: Orthodoxy and Feminism -- and I'm ready to pass judgment: This book is less than brilliant. To call it brilliant is to reveal what low expectations one must have for feminist scholarship. The book is just a cry from the heart with a lot of academic jargon. Visions of Lorena Bobbitt pass before me as this is pointed out to me by a friend. Later, I find out via the internet that Dr. Ross's daughter Dvora lived out what her mother did only to a painting -- a PhD, she went on to have three kids without a father (via artificial fertilization). The nonsense overflows on the back cover of Tamar's book: "Writing as an insider (herself an Orthodox Jew), Ross seeks to develop a theological response that fully acknowledges the male bias of Judaism's sanctified texts, yet nevertheless provides a rationale for transforming that bias in today's world without undermining their authority." This is rationally ludicrous for many reasons. Number one, it is outside of Orthodox Judaism (and fraudulent to present oneself as an Orthodox Jew while making any such argument) that Judaism's sanctified texts that it claims come from God have any bias. Number two. If you argue that "Judaism's sanctified texts" have any bias, then you automatically undermine their authority. For a reality check, examine the non-Orthodox streams of Judaism which make emphatic claims about biases in the Bible and the Talmud etc and you will find the least observance of Jewish law and the least attention paid to rabbis and any higher authority beyond individual autonomy. As I should've guessed, there's a glowing quote on the back of the book from the indecipherable and over-rated Aviva Zornberg, who writes: "Writing in a postmodernist vein, she offers a quantum leap in her complex yet trenchant perspective on the challenge posed by feminism to the concept of Revelation." To any orthodox believer in his religion (be it Judaism, Christianity, Islam), Revelation is not a concept, it is an ultimate truth that poses challenges to all other ways of viewing life, such as feminism, rather than it being challenged by modern academic theories. For the believing Jew, God reveals himself in the Torah, not in feminism (or anything else), and, in this case, it is primarily feminism that should be critiqued by Torah and not the other way round. Dr. Ross begins the book listing the ways she's been made to feel uncomfortable as a Jewish woman. Now, at least when men do this, they do it as comedy (Portnoy's Complaint). Judaism makes differing demands on everybody, male and female, Cohen and Israelite, young and old. But only women get taken seriously when they say that Judaism's particular demands on them (and lack of demands from them when compared to the commandments incumbent on men) make them feel uncomfortable. If an Orthodox Jewish man wrote a book about how thrice-daily prayer requirements made him feel uncomfortable, nobody would pay him the least mind. But in our modern mood, a lot of silly complaints by aggrieved "minorities" are automatically treated with respect. Now, I understand that the Jewish tradition, along with every other tradition, has long had significant strands denigrating the worth of females compared to males, and that this is obviously wrong and not something we should perpetuate. I don't have a problem with any movement (including feminism) that encourages people to be all they can be (so long as they don't hurt others). But as Dennis Prager says, asking what is good is more important than asking what is good for my particular group. I fully subscribe to this sentence by Dr. Ross: "More compelling for me than the issue of feminism was the clash between Jewish tradition and modernity in general." Ross writes: "I am ideologically commited to the tradition as it stands as the basic grammar that governs the way that I relate to the world and my religious experience." People who are truly committed to a religious tradition don't speak in this way. They commit to a tradition because they believe it is God's will, not because it is their chosen grammar. Dr. Ross is big on "gender" -- a cultural construct -- rather than "sex," a biological fact. But to come down conclusively and totally on either end of the nature vs. nurture debate is ignorant. Some evidence points towards our genes as propelling us towards certain behaviors and other evidence points towards culture for other behaviors. The title of this book seems deceitful. It's true agenda is to expand the palace of feminism into the world of Torah, and when the two clash, to choose feminism over Torah. Even though Tamar is literate in the languages of her religion, she reminds me of media celebrity Irshad Manji, who had the chutzpah to publish a book in 2002 called The Trouble with Islam: A Muslim's Call for Reform in Her Faith, even though Irshad is illiterate in Arabic (the principle language of Islam), a practicing lesbian, and regarded as an aspotate by many Muslims). I believe that Tamar Ross is Orthoprax -- she practices Orthodox Judaism. But she certainly doesn't believe as Orthodox Judaism requires and thus she shouldn't pose as an authentic Orthodox Jew writing from within the tradition. Her book was originally a paper delivered at the Orthodox Forum at Yeshiva University. Rabbi Ahron Lichtenstein then ripped her arguments apart. Dr. Ross describes her experience at the Forum on page XIII:
But they were prepared, Dr. Ross, and they critically ripped your arguments apart. It was not them who were unable to deal critically. It was you.
In other words, they disagreed with you, and you found this "heavy and oppressive."
You can't be intellectually honest and argue for feminism from within the Jewish tradition. Feminism, as it is currently understood, is an ideology alien to Judaism. I'm sick of all these people such as Dr. Tamar Ross and Dr. Dvorah Ross posing as Orthodox Jews and writing critiques of Orthodox Judaism from alien perspectives while all the time claiming to be insiders authentic to the tradition. I'm starting to sound like Wendy Shalit. These are the type of people who are going to have daughters who want to claim to be Orthodox and yet have children without getting married. These women have inherited their mother's narcissistic thinking process -- primarily concerned with self-fulfillment (rather than the consequences of their behavior on others). Tamar's daughter Dvora wrote an article reviewing the literature of Jewish law on artificial fertilization for unmarried women (something that is clearly against the ethos of Jewish living, children should start out life with a mother and father).
From the Jerusalem Post 4/8/04:
It's a real shame that Orthodox Jewish women are having kids on their own when there are wonderful guys like me just waiting to become husbands and fathers. Luke In Chinatown I got lost going to the Union railroad station in downtown Los Angeles. I just spent $1,700 ($3,600 in the past six months) on my van. Friday afternoon, it stalled and stopped on 800 N. Hill next to 500 W. Alpine St. It wouldn't turn over. I made nervous calls on my cell phone, finally getting a towtruck. I pulled out my jumper cables and opened the hood and stood there until a white guy pulled over and gave me a jump. My car revved but wouldn't fire. We pushed it onto the sidewalk. Waiting for my tow truck, I call another company. They say it will cost $220 to get me back home. I stay with the original guy, who gets there after an hour. He only charges me $95. (Luckily, since I first got car insurance in the summer of 1985, I've bought towing insurance and have never had to pay for a tow.) My friend found another ride home. I wasted four hours. I felt emasculated sitting there in Chinatown with my car dead. My true fear, my deepest darkest dread, is not so much the crappy state of my vehicle, but that it is a metaphor for the real me. Under pressure, I can't turn the switch and rev my engine. I got home to this email:
Cathy Seipp writes: "Sell the van for parts already! Or pay someone to tow it away, which is what you may have to do. I told you months ago that to continue to repair that pile of crap is INSANE. You could get a junker for $800 and it would still be better than the serial killer van. If you feel the need to get rid of extra cash, donate it to an animal shelter or something." I Hope Nobody Gets Killed By My Posting This Palestinians used Bible as toilet paper: Muslims' desecration of holy book received little notice. Interview with Marsha Plafkin (Part II) This is compiled from my various communications with Marsha over the past month. Luke: At the end of Part I of this interview, you referenced letters containing allegations of sexual impropriety written in May and June 1999. Can you be more specific? Marsha: In my letters, I stated that rabbi Danny Gordis has caused a "problem" for me, that he had made me feel "used" and "extremely unhealthy", that he "took advantage" of my subordinate status, that he had conducted himself in a "very sexualized and intimate way", that he asked "graphic sexual questions", and that the bounderies I needed "had been broken." I also detailed sexual advances made by Gordis over time. Keep in mind that I was very conflicted about discussing this matter openly given Gordis' position and reputation in the Conservative movement, but I needed help. Instead of receiving help, Mark Bookman (UJ Vice-President), rabbi Bradley Sharvit-Artson [head of the rabbinics school], and Assistant Dean rabbi Edward Harwitz concocted a scheme to begin their cover-up and retaliation. Luke: What did their scheme look like? Marsha: Well, it had three parts, occuring in rapid succession. First, Mark Bookman conducted a secret sexual harassment investigation. He apparently worked with Artson, Harwitz, and Gordis to accomplish this. I was not informed of this investigation until I took the depostion of Mark Bookman in February 2004. Bookman testified that he completed an investigation while Gordis and Harwitz were still employed at the University. Each of their employments ended on June 30, 1999. The fact that an investigation was conducted without my knowledge was a violation of school policy. Luke: And what was the second part? Marsha: The second action came from Harwitz. In consultation with Bookman, Harwitz wrote a letter of evaluation, stating that I was "unfit" for the rabbinate. This was the first time the University had suggested orally or in writing that I was "unfit" for the rabbinate. I received the evaluation by mail after the end of Harwitz' and Gordis' employment. Harwitz also drafted another document the following month, when he was no longer employed. This second document was titled CONFIDENTIAL MEMO and was never discussed with me. I only learned of this CONFIDENTIAL MEMO in December 2004, during discovery for my law suit. This MEMO by Harwitz is filled with unsubstantiated allegations about my character and my behavior, dating back over a period of two years. It included allegations against me which were not included in the Harwitz evaluation as mailed to me. Luke: And what next? Marsha: Within days of receiving the Harwitz evaluation, Artson wrote me stating that Mark Bookman was about to "launch a formal investigation" into my charges of sexual harassment unless I provided a letter stating that I did not wish to participate. Overwhelmed. I understood that I was being set up. I was very frightened and anxious. I felt alone and attacked. Luke: So how did you respond? Marsha: I met with Bookman, Artson, and Registrar Jill Lasker regarding the demand that I make a determination. Although the harassment policy provides for informal address of the charges, Artson and Bookman would not allow this. Instead they demanded to either press ahead with a "formal investigation" or to end all discussion with a letter from me. Artson manipulated me, openly showing he believed Gordis had been seduced. Contrary to his professed feminism, Artson showed no or little sensitivity to the power issues involved. Bookman told me that "nothing" could come of an investigation. Lasker said that going foward with the investigation "will only hurt you." The coercion by Bookman, Artson, and Lasker was compounded by my own sense of shame. Luke: Why were you ashamed? Marsha: First, I imagined a certain mutuality of feeling between me and Gordis and therefore questioned whether a "sexual harassment" investigation was the right mechanism to address what had happened. I tried to find other language, like "inappropriate conduct." And again, I asked for a more informal process, but this was denied. I was acutely aware that I was part of the problem, and very grieved by this. Over time, and through therapy, I began to understand that there was no real 'mutuality' between me and Gordis. I began to understand that he had manipulated and played with me. I concluded this because Gordis used my rabbinic aspirations to control me in this circumstance. Harassment was exactly the word to use to describe his conduct. Luke: Anything else? Marsha: Well, yes. Gordis had made an inappropriate foray into my childhood sexual trauma. As many people know, all victims of sexual trauma feel shame, and self-blame. It isn't "rational," but it occurs. I was feeling shame based on my trauma. In addition to the intrinsic shame caused by being victimized, my shame in this circumstance was compounded the way Gordis explored for his own benefit the details of my personal history. Luke: What do you mean "for his own benefit"? Marsha: Gordis conducted himself as a voyer. He indulged himself on sexually explicit matters under the pretense of providing rabbinic counsel and evaluating my fitness for the rabbinate. He feigned emotional closeness with me in order to win and misuse my trust. Gordis abused his power and authority at my expense. Luke: So did you go forward with the university's investigation in July 1999? Marsha: No. Due to my shame and sense of duress I wrote a letter stating that I did not want to pursue an investigation "at that time." Then I moved off campus and tried to begin the healing process. However, within months, Artson called me to his office to request my resignation from the program. He later refused to acknowlege that he had made this request. I refused to resign and asked if I could resume classes part-time. Despite the fact that other students had been afforded part-time study, Artson refused the request and mandated a second-year-leave for me. He then told me that I would have to meet with the Admission's Committee before returning to school. Luke: Did you meet with the Admission's Committee? Marsha: Not immediately. After I had achieved some measure of recovery, I reasserted my allegations of sexual harassment against Gordis in writing to Artson in August and September of 2000. I also stated that the imposition of an additional Admission's Committee meeting violated the original terms of my acceptance to the University, and that that the University's administrative approach to my problem was abusive. Luke: How did Artson respond? Marsha: He wrote a letter stating that I had presented "no actionable information" in respect to Gordis, and that I would need to meet with the Admissions Committee before being re-admitted to school. Artson knew full well that a secret sexual harassment investigation had been conducted and that the letters prompting had been purposely withheld from my student file. According to Artson the Admission's Committee would not be charged to address my allegations against Gordis, but only my "relationship to the Ziegler program." I was furious that the Dean of a Rabbinical School would participate in such unethical conduct. Luke: What did you make of this? Marsha: First, I thought that this is the University's game plan, to somehow separate my experience at Ziegler from my experience with Gordis. Second, this response demonstrated to me that Artson is a hypocrite and a fraud. He had previously recieved my correspondence identifying my problems with Gordis, and he knew I was under too much duress in July 1999 to participate in an investigation. So rather than address my claims, he conducted a "Kangeroo" Admission's Committee meeting in March 2001, and expelled me from the Ziegler School. Luke: Did you think that was the end of it? Marsha: I was totally blown away by this experience and unsure of how to proceed. I met with Rabbi Stan Levy who directed me to Rabbi and attorney Arthur Gross-Schaeffer. Gross-Schaeffer, who has published extensively on the subject of rabbinic sexual misconduct, reviewed my materials which included email correspondence between Gordis and me. Based on his review, Gross-Schaeffer called the UJ's outside attorney, Stuart Rudnick whom he happened to know, and suggested that the UJ meet with me, reinstate me in the program, and pay for my damages. Luke: Did this happen? Marsha: The UJ did meet with me. Bookman contacted me to meet. At the outset, he stated this was finally my opportunity to present my allegations of sexual harassment against Gordis. He conducted four meetings, with Rabbi Mimi Weisel present at the first two. She was replaced by Sofia Yalovsky, who reports to Bookman, after Rabbi Weisel admitted that Gordis' behavior was a problem. I also presented email letters from Gordis, demonstrating that he had asked me graphic sexual questions. The emails also demonstrate that when I attempted to end our correspondence, Gordis threatened my program participation. Additionally, I presented testimony from other women, who also felt sexually harassed by Gordis. At no time during these meetings did Bookman volunteer that he had already conducted the secret investigation in 1999. Luke: What did Bookman do with all the evidence you presented? Marsha: He supressed it. At the end of our four meetings, Bookman wrote me a letter stating that my "Appeal to the Admission's Committee" had been denied. He referenced his review of materials concerning Gordis, and stated, as follows: "...the decision of the Admissions Committee and the actions of the current Dean were independent from any actions of the former Dean. At the same time, I acknowledged that your perceptions of your interactions with the former Dean had a negative impact on you and on behalf of the University I expressed regret that this occured. I also shared that in making the latter statement I was in no way evaluating the actions of the former Dean, but was instead speaking solely to how you responded to these interactions." (Bookman letter, June 16, 2001) Luke: How did you interpret these comments? Marsha: Bookman was effectively saying that my sense of mistreatment was only in my head. He was also saying that he would not indict Gordis based on the evidence. Bookman lied about the purpose for these meetings. He failed to tell me that he had already decided the outcome for my claims. He suppressed a ton of evidence and caused me further duress. In retrospect, his only purpose for those meetings was to review the material for legal liability. Once Israel scorned the Diaspora, but times have changed and this year a master teacher from Los Angeles will be honored as Israel turns 57
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Vicki Polin's Journey Towards Judaism I talk Thursday morning, May 19, by phone with Orthodox rabbi Ze'ev Smason or the Nusach Hari Bnai Zion synagogue in St. Louis, MO. Luke: "Did Vicki tell you about her 1989 appearance on the Oprah show?" Rabbi Smason: "Yes, she did mention that to me. I've known Vicki for at least six years. I met Vicki on the internet in a Jewish chatroom, as I have done many other individuals, as a rabbi and as a person. I've made many pleasant associations with people throughout the world. At one time, we had a get together in St. Louis. I invited a number of people from around the country to come to our house over the weekend to spend Shabbos with myself, my wife, and my family. Vicki was one of the people who came. I got to know Vicki better. I've maintained contact with her over the years." Luke: "What do you know about her 1989 appearance on the Oprah show?" Rabbi Smason: "I only know what I've seen in the articles she sent me about it. I don't know any more than what she has said publicly about it." Luke: "Does she strike you as someone who is mentally stable?" Rabbi Smason: "Yes, she does." Luke: "What do you know about her work on the issue of sex abuse?" Rabbi Smason: "I know about her work with The Awareness Center and it is a one-woman show publicizing specific instances of abuse as well as disseminating information to people on how to respond properly to abuse. She's a voice in the wilderness raising people's consciousness about it. She's at the forefront." Luke: "When Vicki went on Oprah in 1989, she said her family was part of a cult that ritually sacrificed children going back to the 1700s. As a rabbi who is aware of how this sort of charge has been used against Jews since the Middle Ages, that they sacrifice children..." Rabbi Smason: "To say such a thing is abhorrent. It's appalling. I don't know what prompted her to say that. I don't know what her state of mind was at the time. I've never asked her if she still believes that that is so." Luke: "She does." Rabbi Smason: "I haven't spoken to her about that issue. I have related to her as she has appeared to me from the moment I met her. When I first met her, she indicated that she had spoken on Oprah and that there was some controversy involved with that. She said she had a troubled background and spoke with me in some detail about the problems she had with her family. I just related to her as a friend and on a case-by-case basis of what she is doing now in raising consciousness about sexual abuse." Luke: "How closely have you been following The Awareness Center (TAC)?" Rabbi Smason: "Fairly closely. She keeps me in touch via emails and I see The Awareness Center being mentioned in other people's emails. There have been issues that have come to light through the Rabbinical Council of America about a certain member who was expelled. Some of the things that have never been discussed in the Jewish community, such as sexual abuse by rabbis, are now being more freely discussed." Luke: "From what you know, do you think The Awareness Center is doing more good than harm?" Rabbi Smason: "It's hard for me to answer that question. There's a lot of good that they do and there are things that they do that I object to. There has to be a careful calculation made when exposing the names of individuals. We have issues in Jewish law that prevent us from defaming, slandering and maligning individuals. It could well be that a competent posek [a decisor of Jewish law] could decide that the individual's name needs to be publicized because the individual is a danger. But to make that decision requires broad shoulders, to take upon oneself the decision to publicize this individual. I question the criteria by which certain individuals' names are mentioned [on TAC]." Luke: "How would you describe Vicki's knowledge of Judaism when you met her?" Rabbi Smason: "She was not well-versed in Judaism and traditional Jewish sources." Paul Barresi Michael Sontino writes:
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